It is always an honor to introduce a new Connection Messenger* to Heartspoken.com. Today's guest writer is Jane Pollak, a remarkably talented, genuine, and deeply spiritual woman, whose book Soul Proprietor: 101 Lessons from a Lifestyle Entrepreneur first confirmed my belief in a holistic approach to business. We bring our whole selves to our business and our life—our heart and soul—and our relationship with money, our money issues, if you will, is an integral part of that and reflects both our relationship with God and our relationship with ourselves. I found this piece extremely thought-provoking, and I commend her course to you if it seems like a good fit (see info below post).
So many of us have issues around money: gambling, credit card debting, hoarding, big-shot-ism. The medium of money has a way of revealing our personal idiosyncrasies, whether it’s once in a while or chronically. Like food, another commodity that can take on enormous meaning, we reward ourselves, deprive ourselves, binge, purge or starve.
My personal issue is something I’ve heard labeled ‘anorexic spending.’ That means I don’t like to spend a single dollar until I have a hundred or a thousand to back it up. I like to hold onto what I have and fear spending. This is not a viable formula for life.
Which brings me to my current fear of money. I’m in the process of furnishing a new apartment I just bought. I’m investing in a piece of NYC property, and I want to add to what I already own to make it beautiful. I have money in my apartment account that I’ve earmarked for this occasion. Yet it’s still hard for me to pull the trigger as I check out at Pottery Barn, West Elm, and Restoration Hardware making purchases. My gremlins are forming a chorus and singing, “You can get it cheaper!” and “Do you really need that?”
Those deeply etched beliefs show up as I’m getting ready to make a decision and ebb once I’ve clicked SUBMIT ORDER. I don’t suffer from buyer’s remorse. It’s more paralysis leading up to the spending.
Fortunately, I’ve been working for years to reverse the old messages I picked up as a child. One of my early gurus, Wayne Dyer, talked about having to pay (and I'm making this up, but you get the idea) $5000 for something important, a surgery or a piece of equipment. He was concerned about spending that much money. When he went to his mailbox after making the decision to go ahead and invest this amount on behalf of his well-being, there was a check there for $4960 from an unexpected source he'd forgotten.
He talked about how the Universe presents these ‘coincidences' over and over again. So I began paying attention to these ‘coincidences' and discovered they are God's way of remaining anonymous.
I'm moving soon and felt afraid about the cost of the physical move. I'm loathe to let go of money, even when I have it. Then I remembered that my security deposit on my current apartment meets the cost of the move almost to the penny. I find these coincidences occurring over and over again in my life when I'm moving in the right direction for me. I call them winks from the Universe and feel a deep connection with Source that this is the right step for me to take.
Rather than the old chestnut, “I’ll believe it when I see it,” Wayne Dyer says, “You’ll see it, when you believe it.” I see evidence every day of God's abundance.
Because I look for it.
Jane Pollak is one of the Northeast’s foremost coaches of entrepreneurial women and a living example of how to turn a passion into a thriving business. A successful entrepreneur, author, and business coach, Jane’s story is an odyssey that led her from remote craft fairs and customer rejections to an invitation to the White House and appearances on NBC’s Today Show. In addition to coaching, speaking nationally and blogging, she hosts Remarkable Women networking events and seasonal retreats. Learn more at www.janepollak.com.