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So many women today seem to be learning critical life lessons earlier than I did when I was a young woman, and one of those lessons that took me to long to learn is how to connect with myself.
My talented cousin Susanah Craft once wrote these poignant words in her no-longer-published blog: “Three years ago, I was a woman who was daily disappointed with her body.”
If I asked you to raise your hand if you, at any time in your life, identified with that statement, I daresay I’d see quite a few raised high, and some of you would be waving them frantically in recognition of this sentiment. I still don’t like my body, but in my seventh decade of life, I’m trying to feel more tenderly towards it and take better care of it. It is, after all the only one I’m going to get!
Tools for self-love
- Make a list of your accomplishments.
- Pamper yourself with a daily self-care routine (meditation, exercise, walk, dancing).
- Journal daily to process your thoughts and emotions.
- Remove things from your life that no longer serve you.
- Practice gratitude for yourself, your body, your assets, and your abilities. Give thanks, even when you don’t feel thankful. [tweetthis]Gratitude is a powerful practice.[/tweetthis]
Self-love and self-care are not selfish
I’ve written about this before (See “Self Is Not A Dirty Word” and “Are You Kind To Yourself?”). [tweetthis remove_hidden_hashtags=”true”]We must let go of the notion that it is somehow selfish to take care of ourselves.[/tweetthis] In fact, it’s essential, not only to our own well-being, but also to our ability to reach out to others from a position of strength and love.
Make up your mind to start a journey of self-love, beginning where you are with whatever baby steps you need to take.
What tools have you found to cultivate self-love, self-care, and self-confidence? Please share in the comments below.